Bully Are Psychopath That Need Professional Help

If you’re lucky, the last bully you encountered hit you up for your lunch money–but not everyone leaves their bullies back in high school. Some people work with them. But these bullies have moved on to bigger and more nefarious schemes. An office bully - is someone who “consistently puts others down and lives for people’s failures. They use fear to get what they want. Even worse, though? Office bullies’ intimidation tactics aren’t always overt. So, here are six signs you’re dealing with an office bully–and what you can do about it, too.

1. THEY CLING TO YOU LIKE GLUE - 

Hear that buzzing? It’s the office bully, calling you for the tenth time that day. When an office bully needs your help - they will incessantly message you to make sure they have your attention. Email, IM, call, text, carrier pigeon–anything to pressure you to respond to them.” Why? - because office bullies thrive by others doing their work for them. A Company had to formally block an office bully from an internal messaging system to get her to stop.

2. THEY ACT LIKE YOUR BOSS

Office bullies want ultimate control. So, while they may seem nice in the beginning, it’s usually in an effort to gain trust and control. They may later start to push a certain personal agenda or tell others what they can and can’t do in a work project. They may also begin to act like a boss. Office bullies tend to have a self-righteous attitude, and they are not afraid to demonstrate their fictitious superiority. They see no problem with bossing their peers around–even if they are on the same level.

3. WHEN YOU NEED HELP, THEY’RE NOWHERE TO BE FOUND

Need help from an office bully? Good luck!!! Forget asking this person for help. They’ll refuse to assist you at all costs–even if you just helped them with their project. They’ll suddenly disappear from IM, email, or say they are too busy to help. Worse - an office bully might tell you that you should be able to do your own job without anyone’s help–loud enough for the whole office to hear it.

4. THEY DON’T LIKE ANYTHING YOU DO

When it comes to work, we all have to be prepared for a little criticism. But, while there is nothing wrong with constructive criticism now and then - an office bully will constantly criticize everything and everyone. They will try to crush confidence and damage reputations to make others look bad or inferior.

5. THEY NEED CONSTANT ATTENTION

Much like children, office bullies want–or even need–to be the center of attention at the office. They will be nice while they are getting the amount of attention they want. But once they don’t, “they’ll use what they know against you.

6. THEY THINK THEY’RE HOT STUFF

Just like a high school bully who thinks he’s hot stuff, an office bully thinks he’s very cool, too. They think too highly of themselves. They think that they are better than everyone else, even if they aren’t. Because they see themselves as the best in the business - they might try to sabotage others who do their jobs better [than them]. Since this type of bully thinks their way is the best way, they are against trying new ways of doing things or listening to others.

If you think you’re dealing with an office bully, first - Do your best to avoid giving the office bully a reaction. That’s because - if you avoid reacting after several attempts, they may determine that you aren’t worth trying to control.

Also, try to remember “at the crux of it, this person is bullying you because they are unhappy with their life. It has nothing to do with you. Bullies don’t stop at one person–so know that other people have been there before.