Reject Bully

Anyone who spends enough time in an office will eventually encounter toxic personalities. Many people occasionally feel belittled, misunderstood or undervalued in their professional roles. But when does a supervisor or co-worker's behavior cross the line from annoying to potential legal nightmare? The answer lies in understanding what constitutes workplace bullying.

Being bullied can have a variety of tells: erratic behavior, depression, anxiety, absenteeism, appearing withdrawn or expressing a sense of isolation. Bullying is "abusive conduct" that feels threatening, humiliating or intimidating, according to the Workplace Bullying Institute, which works to study, correct and prevent abusive conduct at work. ​

Even with these clear definitions and guidelines for noticing red flags, it can be difficult to recognize bullying behavior at work - particularly if you are emotionally upset from experiencing it. You might think that bullies are only a problem for children and turn a blind eye to such behavior in adults. You might also be reluctant to view yourself as the victim of a bully, feeling like it means you are a weak person or incompetent employee.

Here are five signs that suggest you may be bullied at work.

1. Not receiving credit for your work. Failing to receive credit for work that you've done – or receiving an inordinate amount of criticism – could be part of a bullying campaign to make you look bad or incompetent. These critiques often have no merit, but they can impact others' impressions of you if you don't speak up. To prevent this, set clear expectations and roles at the outset of a project, so the bully can't claim your accomplishments or blame you for their mistakes."

2. Being aggressively managed. Even bosses can be bullies. If your manager corrects you in public rather than private, uses impolite or unprofessional word choices when communicating with you or sets your deadlines based on personal whims rather than team goals and priorities, that may be bullying. Tread lightly if you are in this position.

3. Becoming the butt of jokes. While kidding around in the office is common, it's different when you're constantly targeted about character traits that you can't change. If you bully someone for not pulling their weight, they can get better at their job – rude nonetheless but a person can change. People who are targeted for trash-talking, name-calling and mocking – either at meetings or behind the scenes when no one is around to hear it – are being bullied. 

4. Noticing the "mob effect." If everyone in the office suddenly turns against you, avoids you or cuts you out of important conversations, they may be exhibiting bullying behavior. This includes being systematically shunned from meetings, then finding out that important information that impacts your performance is being withheld from you. This one is hard to combat because an employer will typically take the word of many over the word of one. 

5. Feeling sick. The pernicious effects of bullying can take a heavy toll on your health. If the experiences you're having in the office make you feel like throwing up the night before your week begins, this is another common sign of bullying. In the short-term, targets of bullies may experience health problems, such as headaches, difficulty concentrating, depression and sleep and anxiety issues. They are also more likely to abuse alcohol and drugs. Victims may fear meetings, office activities or even going to the workplace. Their work performance often suffers.

Experts recommend that adults who are being bullied at work document all incidents in detail and report bullying behavior to the appropriate body. Other tactics for dealing with bullies are to avoid or ignore the bully. If the situation isn't improving and the strain on their health or work performance becomes too much, victims may need to consider changing jobs.